Not sure that oblivious is the right word here

By John, 24 April, 2015

My wife claims that I am oblivious to "what needs to be done" in order to have people over to the house.

In the house I grew up in, people coming over is not an Event for which one needs a checklist. People came over, almost every day. Often, entirely unannounced. Sometimes all at once. Pull up another couple chairs, I'll start another pot of coffee.

So my mental model of having people over is quite a bit more... informal than hers is. I'm certainly not oblivious to what my wife thinks needs to be done, do I see the toys on the floor? Yes. Do I think that it matters? Not as much as she does.

Even so, I enthusiastically welcome the checklist. Getting the checklist out where I can see it is much better than having the checklist only exist in her head.

Further reading:
Why Scruffy Hospitality Creates Space for Friendship
How to Host a Crappy Dinner (And See Your Friends More Often)

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